About Me

In December2023, I fulfilled a lifelong dream!

I took my two kids to Europe for 3 weeks.

And then in February, I spent 3 weeks in Costa Rica with friends at a luxury retreat and my first music festival, Envision.

Most of us think these experiences are only available to the wealthy or to hippies who don't care about their futures.

But these types of experiences are all about permission.

The permission you give yourself is all that matters.

I don't wait for permission anymore.

Waiting for perfect circumstances is the same as waiting for someone else to tell you, you've arrived and now you have the right to live.

I choose my happiness, health and vitality each day and honestly, some days it is extremely challenging.

Choosing the familiar pattern of sacrifice, hustle and grind trying to look and feel legitimate, never worked.

I told myself it worked. But looking back, it was never sacrifice or hustle that shifted things.

I no longer choose that path.

And it wasn’t always this way.

I used to care more about what others thought of me than how I felt or what I wanted.

And people who walked around, looking genuinely happy and open....

used to trigger me.

Why?

Honestly, I was jealous.

I believed they were successful because they had a better start in life, more knowledge, were more special or better than me in some way, etc. Like I was uniquely flawed.

Those are lies!

I can have what I want. You can have what you want. There's enough for everyone.

We don’t have to be special, the best, or work constantly to earn it.

God/The Universe doesn’t make mistakes. We have been given our desires. We don't choose them.

But.....most of us think that doing without, feeling bad or displaying lots of humility through forced gratitude is noble. And that God/Universe/Spirit appreciates our self-deprecating or sacrifice.

Really?

Would you want your child to do without or believe they are bad?

Of course not!

We want our kids to feel full and happy. We want them to be themselves and love themselves.

How many of us hear about self-love but mistake it for tough-love? If I just whip myself into shape I'll be happy...

Or we try affirmations all day every day and still feel stuck.

That’s because real change requires more than just words—it demands deep, transformative action.

Most of us are scared or ashamed to take that action.

I’ve always been a risk taker. It was very scary and painful for most of my life but I pushed through again and again.

I grew up in a cult, where scarcity and fear were the dominant vibration.

Money felt dirty and hard to get. Sexual assault was swept under the rug. Victims were blamed.

Shunning, guilt, and shame kept us compliant. We learned not to trust our bodies or ourselves.

Abuse patterns of all kinds were seen as the-right-way-to-get-compliance in my family.

At age 4 I was asking God what the point of my life was. It just felt heavy and I couldn't understand why a loving God would put me here to experience so much pain.

When I had kids, I knew I had to change things to make sure I didn’t pass these low vibrational beliefs on to them.

I don’t want them depressed and feeling like they can’t do anything right, the way I felt.

This desire lead me to be the first in my family to graduate from college, earning a Bachelor's and an MBA, among other certificates and awards.

I decided that academia, a corporate job and chasing prestige and financial wealth would make me happy and provide the best life for me and my kids. I thought if I could just make enough money, then I could finally relax and enjoy myself.

But it didn't matter what I achieved or how much money I made. The raises and promotions kept coming. The projects and my impact were growing.

But happiness was elusive and I kept spending as much or more than I earned.

I decided to take an honest look at myself. I couldn't keep placing blame outside myself. I couldn't keep looking for satisfaction out there somewhere.

I tried self-help and therapy and I had some shifts.

But the major shifts began happening when I finally sought support, got out of my mind and into my body.

I invested in coaching. It accelerated my healing and growth beyond what I could have imagined.

So now I share what I've learned with the world through my podcast and work with clients.

I love life.

I love freedom.

I love helping people release shame and live from their truest desires.

If you’re ready to give yourself permission, let’s talk!

Lived Expertise & Somatic Mastery

Survivor of complex childhood sexual boundary trauma who has spent over a decade healing, unwinding generational patterns, and rebuilding a safe relationship to sexuality, intimacy, and the body.
Deeply experienced in somatic healing, nervous system attunement, and the embodied practices required to reclaim pleasure, presence, and safety after trauma.
Personally transformed the exact parenting challenges faced by many survivors—fear of closeness, hypervigilance, self-abandonment, shutdown, shame, and confusion around appropriate boundaries.

Space Holding & Facilitation

Led a year-long series of biweekly sacred sexuality circles within the Fit For Service community, creating a safe, nonjudgmental space for survivors to share, process, and heal.
Facilitated vulnerable conversations for 10–20 participants consistently, many returning multiple times for the depth, safety, and clarity of the space.
Known within multiple communities as the “go-to person” for conversations about sex, shame, trauma, and healing, due to your embodied safety and non-reactive presence.
Experienced in guiding groups through emotional processes, boundaries work, nervous-system downregulation, and trauma-informed dialogue.

Trauma Awareness & Parenting Insight

Personally navigated and healed the unique challenges of parenting with a trauma-affected nervous system, developing effective tools for connection, emotional regulation, boundaries, and safety.
Understands the intergenerational transmission of trauma from lived experience—not just theory—and knows how to interrupt and redirect those patterns.
Offers a rare, empathic understanding of how sexual trauma impacts:
- closeness with children
- emotional availability
- boundary distortion
- triggers
- fear of repeating the past
- hyper-responsibility or dissociation
Brings clarity to the hidden survival patterns trauma survivors often misinterpret as “bad parenting.”

Training, Education & Professional Background

Completed a year-long transformational coaching program (Fit For Service) with a focus on embodiment, emotional healing, somatics, and community leadership.
Studied extensively in the fields of sexual healing, trauma, embodiment, nervous system science, somatic therapy principles, attachment, and sacred sexuality through books, courses, and mentorship.
Worked professionally as a business owner, executive-level financial leader, and facilitator, bringing structure, ethics, safety, and maturity into her work.
Currently completing formal training to become a Sex, Love & Relationship Coach, integrating science-backed tools with spiritual and somatic wisdom.

Mission & Impact

Devoted to ending generational trauma, shame-driven silence, and sexual exploitation by empowering parents to heal themselves first.
Passionate about helping families become safe, emotionally attuned, body-wise, and connected, preventing conditions where abuse can thrive.
Committed to transforming shame into safety, silence into conversation, and trauma into embodied empowerment for families and communities.